Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Semua jejaka hensem bila berumur 40 tahun.

 Ok maybe some of you have read this. Berleluasa di facebook. But really menarik perhatian. Original dari blog seorang awek sweet yang sekali pandang suami orang pun mahu tackle. Enjoy reading.

Malaysians are getting married at older age. Why?

Say you are a fresh graduate at that age of 23, a male, starting a carrier with a salary, say RM2000 per month. Monthly, extracting your expenditures on foods, transportation (public or motorcycle), electricity, water, phone, house rent and other expenses, say you can save about RM800 the most.

Then, because you are a good son, you send some money to your parents or relatives about
RM300 per month. This will give you a balance of RM500 of saving. For the first year, maybe you are very discipline with your budget, so you save about RM5000.

The next year at the age of 24, you meet a girl of your dream. Both of you plan to get married after one year or two. Ok, that's fine, it gives you time to save some more money and some more time to prepare the basic
necessities for a 'happy' family? a car and a roof to live under. That year because you are a hard worker, you get a raise of 10%.

Since you are also a gentleman, you make sure some money is put aside to spend on dates and gifts for your girl, so 10% goes for her. Like the previous year, after much sweat and Meggie-eating months, you save another RM5000. You are paid 2 months bonus. So, another RM4000 is added to your saving. So, your total saving now is RM14,000. You decide to spend about RM8000 on a brand-new RM40,000 car down payment. So, you net saving that year is RM6000.

The next year at the age of 25, you are doing fine at work. But because now you have to pay for car every month, your total monthly saving is cut down to about RM400. You save roughly about RM5000 that year. No bonus that year because your company is doing poor. So, your total saving in the bank is RM11,000.

Then, you decide to get engaged with your girlfriend. She said OK. So, need to buy an engagement ring.
RM1500 is spent on ring plus 'hantaran pertunangan'. So, your net saving that year is RM9,500. The next year at the age of 26, you get promoted. Your salary now is 1.5 of your starting salary at the company. Good news! You think. "Ok, this year I will get married". You also are 'gersang' already. :)

So, you ask your fiancée "how much is the dowry (hantaran)? "

She say, "berapa-berapa yang u sanggup".

You ask,"RM5000 ok?".

She replies, "I okay je. Tapi my mom tu. Dia kata grad oversea macam I ni mane boleh letak rendah-rendah. Paling kurang RM10,000 tau!". Your eyes 'terjegil', air liur 'meleleh' and you faint on the spot.

"Where else in the world can I get extra money?", you say to yourself.

But, because you are very determined to get married with your dream girl and in the name of love, you work really really hard that year until you are awarded "The Best Employee of The Year". You get 3 months of bonus. You also do some side business to supply ayam pencen. So, roughly your net saving at the end of that year is RM20,000.

Ok, now you are 27 years old with enough saving in the bank to pay for the dowry. But then, come your mom saying,"Anak mak nak kawin ni mesti la buat grand grand. Kita sewa khemah besar-besar, jemput penyanyi ke artis ke sorang dua datang buat persembahan. Lauk pauk kita cater aje la ya? RM10 je sekepala. Baju kawin ko, kita sewa yg cantik-cantik dan mahal-mahal sket. Kita jemput dalam 1000 orang datang ok?"

You did a quick in-the-head-calculation,

"1000xRM10=RM10,000, penyanyi lagi, khemah lagi, buta-buta je RM15,000!!! Tu tak masuk cincin kahwin lagi!!"

You say,"Mak, nak buat apa membazir-bazir duit ni?"

Your mom replies,"Apa pulak membazirnya? Kau kawin sekali je seumur hidup."

`Biarlah buat betul-betul." You insist,"Tapi mak?"

Your mom says, "Dahlah, kau jangan nak buat malu mak. Cik Tipah jiran kita tu buat kenduri kat hotel siap dato, datin, tan sri puan sri lagi datang. Mana la mak nak letak muka kalau buat kenduri kecik kecik?".

Anyway, you finally get married. But, a beautiful happy life after marriage that you dream of with your wife does not last long. You have debts around your waist, interest gets higher every month, cannot afford to pay them, you wife gets tired of you asking money from her, she accuses you of being irresponsible husband for not being a good provider, blah blah blah? At the end, you two go into separate ways? You get divorced. 
Problem breeds problem? Sometimes we wonder why marriage institution is failing in our country.

The above example may not represent the whole phenomena in our culture, but perhaps it gives us some ideas of the problems young couple these days are facing in getting married from my perspective.

The Root Cause of The Problem...

There is something wrong in our culture. I really think there are some practices in our culture in Malaysia (Malay culture specifically) that do not make sense and especially they are contrary to the teaching of Islam. These practices are well-rooted in our culture that unfortunately because of them, many people are 'afraid' to get married, or simply feel like they cannot afford when they are actually can afford. These are some of my observation and summary analysis:

(1) Marriage should be done in the most modest way but in Malaysia, it is ought to be done in the most lavish way. Competition on whose wedding is the most grandeur is almost unavoidable. Fame is usually the reason why people spend unreasonable and wasteful amount of money for a wedding.

(2) The "price" of a woman is measured according to her perhaps educational status not according to her knowledge and understanding of  Deen and piety as suggested by the religion. The saddest thing is that "price" is put on women, who are supposed to be, if God-loving, kind-hearted and pious ones, "priceless"! 'Dowry' system is adopted by the Malays from perhaps the Indians who came to Malaysia long time ago. When the 'dowry' is put too high and men can't afford to pay, marriage is usually delayed or cancelled. An effort to build another small brick unit of this Deen is delayed or perhaps destroyed only for this reason.

(3) Marriage should be a quick and easy process for the couple not hard, which eventually becomes a burden. These days, we make marriage so complicated that people are afraid of getting married. When I was in the Sydney, I saw Muslim brothers and sisters getting married at the mosque, with just some sweets as the main course for the guests. The guests who were invited to witness the ceremony were usually whoever is no point of being extravagance. We should focus on the life after wedding not the wedding itself. Wedding is only a door to the marriage house. Why should we spent a lot of money to decorate the door so beautifully, when the inside of the house is then left empty, dark and unattractive?

...and the pressure is on men...

Originally from: http://ninanurziana.blogspot.com/2010/05/nape-lelaki-kawin-lambat.html

So, at this rate, i believe i will marry at 40. Haha.

Monday, September 13, 2010

Angpaw raya satu oi!


Helo pipels, sebelum terlambat, saya ingin ucapkan anda2 semua selamat hari raya aidilfitri! 
Ya ya saya tahu saya banyak salah silap ampun maaf dipinta.Untuk rakan2 yang sempat kontek, tak sempat kontek, anda sentiasa di hati. Sayang anda semua! Jangan frust2 di hari raya bahagia ini. Bak kata Yuna, selamat hari raya oyeah!

p/s: Berjaya drive ke guar chempedak + sg. petani dari ayer hitam tanpa bantuan gps! haha. Oyeah. Sungguh kool untuk orang yang direction sense rendah seperti aku. Instinct abes. Hoho.

Neh la family belah mak di Kedah. Supposedly ramai lg tapi entah ke mana entah lupa daratan betul.
So, kosong2 guys!

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Tips Raya Untuk Korang.

Well2. Hari raya semakin menghampiri. Bagaimana kah persiapan korang semua? Hopefully semua gembira di kampung halaman masing2. Aku kat kedah now memang nice kampung life. Btw today aku ada benificial tips utk dishare dgn rakan2, anggap saja angpau raya dari ahmad anas.

So today ill share how to browse internet secara free menggunakn hp anda.oh btw it only works on maxis. Berguna utk mereka2 yg rasa x mahu renggang dr fb dan twitter masing2. Apparently aku blajar teknik ni dr adik aku, dan dia ckp teknik ni gle popular dkat skolah dia. Woo. Nampaknya budak2 skolah menengah lbey update dr budak uni skarang. Isk2.

So utk menggunakan internet scara fri, korg hny perlukan hp yg suport opera mini dan line maxis.

Step 1 install opera mini. Bukak then go to setting then advanced setup. Tengok protocol and field seblah dia secara default would be 'http'. Tukar 'http' option to 'socket' option. Ok done. Kluar opera mini for now.

Step 2 tekan *100# . Amek 7 tetapan internet. Then choose 3 prepaid broadband. Then pilih 4 service switching. Next amek 2 switch to prepaid broadband. Ok done.

Now go to opera mini again n now u can surf for fun. Check ur credit and kompem x bkurang 1 sen pn. Aku pun tgah gne hp je wat post ni. Last but not least slamat hr raya all!

Sunday, September 5, 2010

Bloody Hell.

Jika korang seorang peminat drama korea/jepun korang mesti akan perasan how obsessive they are with their blood types. Even if korang tengok celebrity profile pun ada state blood type masing2. Berbeza di Malaysia memang ramai pun tak hingin nak ambik tau jenis darah masing masing. Tu la remaja2 sekarang malas derma darah derma dara je tahu. Haha. Last2 jadi kes buang bayi dalam plastik lah tepi longkang lah depan surau lah. Main pandai tanggung jawab tak reti. Kamon la batin da matured akal tak matured2. Aish emo pula. Aha. Okei2 kembali kepada topik asal darah. Actually orang Jepun/Korea kaitkan jenis darah kepada personaliti diri mereka. Sejarah kaitan ini berasal dari kajian pendidikan pada awal 1900-an, contohnya:
  1. Rin Hirano, Tomita Yashima (1926) menerbitkan kajian "Blood Type Biological Related" dalam Medical Journal of Army
  2. Takeji Furukawa (1927), menerbitkan kajian "The Study of Temperament Through Blood Type" dalam journal Psychological Research.  
Noticed something? Aha. Yea yea aku mengaku memang aku da obses dengan bentuk tulisan gaya references bajingan ini kerana dah terlalu banyak meluangkan masa untuk research untuk FYP dan FYDP aku. Urgh tiba2 kembali stress memikirkan projek2 tahun akhir. Cuti pun rasa tak cuti weh. Waduhh. Okei2 stop lari topik. By the way, through dua paper di atas, relation blood type dengan personaliti seseorang mula dipercayai di Jepun. So disini aku share sikit ringkasan blood type personalities ini.

Type B

People with blood type B are the most practical of the blood groups. They are specialists in what they do. When they start a project, they spend extra time understanding and trying to follow directions than others might. When they are doing something, all of their attention is focused on it. They tend to stick to a goal and follow it through to the end, even if it seems impossible. They tend to be less than cooperative, as they like to follow their own rules and their own ideas. They are individualists. B type people pay attention to their thoughts a little more than their feelings, and therefore can sometimes seem cold and serious.
People with blood type B are often considered more relaxed, freewheeling, and unconventional than other types, although not necessarily to an unacceptable degree. In anime, the genki, off-the-wall types are type B, along with any kind of well-intended character who's ruled by their impulses.

Oh yea. Fakta tambah sikit, Naruto adalah berdarah B. Hoho. And no wonder i am not the one who can focus, my blood type isn't B.

Type O
People with blood type O people are outgoing, energetic and social. They are the most flexible of the blood types. They easily start up projects but often have trouble following through because they give up easily. They are flighty and not too dependable. O types always say what's on their mind. They value the opinion of others and like to be the center of attention. Also, people with O blood are extremely self-confident.

Type O, the most "average" blood type, is considered the best type in Japan.

Type AB

People with blood type AB are hard to categorize. They can have characteristics on both ends of the spectrum at the same time. For instance, they are both shy and outgoing. They easily switch from one opposite to another. AB people are trustworthy and responsible, but can't handle it when too much is asked of them. They don't mind doing favors or helping out, as long as its on their own conditions. People with this blood type are interested in art and metaphysics.

AB is considered the worst blood type. In predictability-loving Japan, they're loose cannons. They also like to set their own conditions and reserve the right to drop out when things don't meet their expectations. They're known to be sensitive and considerate—at times—but it just isn't enough to balance out the flaws in this blood type. For a while, some companies tried dividing their employees into work groups based on blood type, and no one wanted to work with the AB group. Anime villains are likely to be type AB.

Another fun fact, Uchiha Sasuke adalah berdarah AB. And last but not least jenis darah aku, A. haha. Yea memang betul aku darah A baru je check up time wat Boset hari tu.

Type A

People with blood type A have a deep-rooted strength that helps them stay calm in a crisis when everyone else is panicking. However, they tend to avoid confrontation, and feel very uncomfortable around people. A types are shy and sometimes withdrawn. They seek harmony and are very polite, but all the same feel that they never really fit in with others. A types are very responsible. If there is a job to be done, they prefer to take care of it themselves. These people crave success and are perfectionists. They are also very creative, and the most artistic of all the blood types, most likely because of their sensitivity.

People with blood type A are also likely to be considered classic "type A's": stressed and conscientious. In anime, people like Hotohori are type A's.

Oho. Mari kita lihat sikit2 point yang ada. Stay calm in crisis while everyone is panicking? Hmm. For me my brain usually akan laju generate few plans bila face problems. I will stay calm, tapi if plan A rosak, ganti plan B pun fail, and plan C pun tak dapat buat apa baru la akan cuak. Tapi untuk problem harian kecil2 biasa nya plan B dah dapat setel da. If problem besar yang tak dapat plan apa2 baru tahap kecuakan memang kaw kaw dan tak senang duduk gelabah trus. Perfectionist? No no. Creative, yes yes. Artistic hell yeah if only its not about singing.

Jadi, tell me adakah anda agree dengan relation between blood types dan personality traits yang dicipta orang jepun ini? Dan for those yang masih tak tahu jenis darah mereka lagi sila cepat2 pergi derma darah. Kempen derma darah ini dibawa oleh Kementerian Kesihatan Malaysia. Terima Kasih.

Friday, September 3, 2010

oh mai.

Adam Lambert Live in KL in Stadium Putra Bukit Jalil 14 Oct. Oh mai.
I never want to go to a concert as much as this. Terlepas Muse concert pun penyesalan sampai sekarang.
Layan lagu Mad World skett.